Custody Case in Albania

One of my very first cases in the prime court of Tirana was a custody case in 2004. A pro bono case.

The case clear interacted between more law categories, something at that time never bothered me,  without knowing I was living the freedom to use and interpret the law something unique and so very valuable. My customer was a mother of two, out of marriage, daughters. She got sued by her children's father, who was extending a prison sentence, asking now to get sole custody!

I don't ender details about the plaintiff's lawsuit and his arguments. The point, it's clear the reason, why he submit such a request exactly at this moment, and for me was clear what should I have to prove.

In a free law system, it's enough to prove that a request for a process is not legal or is not the real target. For me was clear I had to prove the father does not really care about the kids and explain the real reason for submitting that lawsuit.

The case requires a series of procedures before arriving at the questions. There was necessary to prepare expertise from a psychologist to ensure that the mother, who was sued, take good care of her daughters, and at last 2 court hearings with formal expressions in front of the judge, who got known with the case during those two first hearings.

There were overall four court hearings. The first two were for the presentation of parties' positions, where I did not yet express my real strategy, but only my dissension with the plaintiff's lawsuit and his used arguments, which got, already, answered from the psychological expertise. I waited up to the third hearing to question the plaintiff.

The third hearing took place not in the judge's office as did happen on the first two hearings, but in a real courtroom. The plaintiff was carried from the prison accompanied by the police force.

As my turn come to make my questions I directed to the plaintiff, asking for the reason he had to extend sentence in prison, direct his lawyer objected as nonrelevant with the case, I explained, we need to get know who exactly the plaintiff is, finally he is requesting custody, claiming the mother as unable to raise the children, the court has to know why the plaintiff is extending sentence in prison, the judge sustained the objection, explaining that the prison sentence of the plaintiff is known to the court and asked me to keep on the case. I could make more questions about his record during his sentence, but I never really search to find out about his in-prison behavior. Instead, I got direct to my point asking the date of his daughter's birthday. His lawyer tend to object, but the judge didn't let him talk, she wanted to hear what the father had to say!.. but he didn't, he didn't exactly know when his daughters' birthdays are, for which he required full and sole custody!

- Your oldest daughter visits the school, is that right? What class is she in? What is your daughter's favorite lesson in school, what she likes to play with? what is her teacher's name?

And finally, how do you think about your role as a father for how long you are in prison and how after you will be a free man again.

Plaintiff: the time in Prison is not gonna last long after I get custody. After I'm free again, I plan to work as a driver to support my family financially.

- How long do you think is going to last your time in prison, after your get custody?

Lawyer: Objection, nonrelevant

- Let me rephrase, who informed you that you will get out of prison, after getting your kids' custody?

Plaintiff: I just know it!

- is that the reason why you submit the custody request to get out of prison? you don't even bother to know about who your daughters really are, instead, you are using them to get yourself out of prison!

People who ignore the invitation of the Defence Ministry for serving the armed force in Albania, are committing a crime and need to extend sentence in prison. Man with family and children are obligated to serve less time or not at all.

It was clear to me the real reason for submitting this lawsuit. There wasn't any worry about the kids but the immoral use of kid's existence after a long absence and all this in an amateur and rough way not even bothering getting the elementary knowledge about the children their custody was requested!

The first part of my strategy wasn't of course to ask only about the children's birthday, I suspect he wouldn't know, but I couldn't be sure. The lightness of his answer, like it's not any big deal to know his children's birthday, gave me the desire to attack the plaintiff with a sere of questions, were clear to me, he didn't know the answer. My next category of questions was the legal advantage he would enter after becoming officially a father, winning the right to request termination of his sentence.

His lawyer's objection, "argumentative, the plaintiff is not obligated to answer" couldn't change the impression in the courtroom, now become clear to everyone what was this case about. The plaintiff didn't answer anything and I turned to my sit saying, "no further questions my Horner". On my conclusions, which I submitted in written form the next week, I explained the real reason for this lawsuit. The judge decided to reject the custody request, submitted by the father. And allowed the kids to keep living with their mother.

A case I never forgot, along the years. In fact, I wasn't prepared as much I should. There was a large thematic to ask about like why he never married my customer, did he recognize the children as the law requires in case of children out of marriage, if he sees them if he talks to the kids, or just if the kids really know him as there father!

He wasn't really prepared for the questions I made, he was prepared only to explain how he will support his family after getting out. In his lawsuit, he explained the support he will get from his mother for raising the children, trying to prove the children's mother was unable and unresponsible for the kids. The move of his girlfriend to occur in court represented by a lawyer surprised the plaintiff and his mother who bet on her extreme poverty and believed she wouldn't submit any legal reaction to the plaintiff's lawsuit, but I did.

The fourth hearing took place in the presence of the lawyers only.  This hearing was to submit the parties' conclusions and present them in front of the judge who gave her decision a couple of days later.

Being a Lawyer in Albania

I lived, in Albania, my big life adventure, indeed. I lived that carrier fiber and I did have a real law carrier in Albania, really, I did.

Being a lawyer in Albania was an unbelievably valuable experience, more than I considered that time. I considered the law business in Albania as the start of a long carrier, unfortunately, what we do that time in that place, me and our team, working in the law business, the seriousness of our work and the journey inside the deepest facts of the law was happening exactly there in that place, in Albania.
The place was corrupted, indeed, and maybe, still is so, but how exactly does corruption works in Albania has nothing to do with an immoral act. Corruption for Albania, the process of giving money to somebody to get your work done,  does not mean paying to get your illegal action covered. The process of giving money to someone is an act of respect for his/her work in the first place. The corrupted judge will support the lawyer who corrupts but will not go against the law. A corrupted court hearing could never be against the law. Behind the corruption fact, the core of winning a case was the preparation of the case in that way to look and be legal, the collection of all the law acts and case facts, the presentation and interpretation of the case during the trial, in the most favorable way for your customer. Unlikely the most modern law systems, which are that limited, look much more corrupted than a court hearing in Albania!

We searched into law acts sometimes the whole night, searching everywhere in any act or document to ensure the best defense for our penal or civil cases, property, or family law cases, we made everything, we interact anything just to get what we need, to win our customer’s case. And every morning we moved out of the office 3, 4, or more lawyers, stand in court for our customers, having 2 or 3 court hearings per day, nothing could stop pursuing our mission, applying justice without limits!

Custody Case in Germany

Limiting the use of arguments, during a court hearing process, would be against the base principle of free defend, but what if most lawyers and judges choose to work only with a limited number of law directions?
There are jurisdictions wherein in the interaction of cases, some of the open cases are putten in stand by to avoid conflicts, decide in priority the penal cases before moving to the civil rights cases.
Law is formed through basic principles and an always developed and adjusted on the current time cultural and social level, entity. That what actually is happening is a limitation of the law translated as development instead, but limiting the law, means limiting the right to a free judgment.

In a custody case, the law would like to judge and decide on the ability of an abusing parent to raise the children without taking into consideration the fact of the abuse case in the past, not because the law believes that the parent has changed, but to prove, unrelated of the abuse nature of this person, that she/he is not responsible enough to raise her/his children.
Just for the satisfaction of the law, which requires an official answer about the ability of this parent to take care of children, let the parent get reexamined about violent behavior to ensure the court there is no way to raise children without inappropriate incidents. But, this system forgets the main subject of this case, those are the children who are carried from one psychologist to the other, visit court hearings or judges, get visits weekly from the youth service on their home, have an investigating eye from their teacher, their cough, their neighbors, their friends’ parents and all their environment who are looking carefully on the children eyes to see if there is any sign of the trauma from the past or any new trauma from the present life. And this will last for years. And all this is to prove officially that the parent is not able to have custody. Putting in a stand by, all the previous criminal behavior of the parent, even those criminal acts including minors, in the way like nothing happened before and all this just to get a hearing where the judge may decide only on the fact of the person’s ability to raise her children.

Do you think this is all good for the children?

What if the abusing part was the father?

How many principals are trampled on modern custody cases?

In a general way the collateral gain and collateral loss, of a law procedure do not get real considered yet In modern law, where a part uses his right for a legal remedy, which is an unquestionable right, indeed, but is not considered the fact that this can get used for time winning for the abusive parent before the custody lose. The principle of naturality applied to modern law cases left this fact out of the arguments that could be used in such a case.

A child cannot stay without custody or be putten in protected custody just to serve a long proving procedure. In fact, fathers' custody requests use to end in Germany after the child enters adulthood. Keeping the custody cases that long, only servers the professions like psychologists, lawyers, and other implicated professions, which in fact in Germany get mainly paid from the state, serve the mother, which custody rights are under dispute and in reconsideration, but finally do not serves the children, which protection claimed the whole process is for.

In Penal cases, there is an active representation of the state, respectively, of the justice, from the DA office, the procurator. In cases where a direct or indirect part is the state, the presence of the State's Attorney ensures that the rights of the state are guaranteed. In family cases, as well, there are a few professionals present, like the psychologist and children educators and, of course, the youth welfare office, which in fact are an essential part of the hearing but non of those parties have got or need to have any law education.

The question is if should the state have a part in such a hearing, finally, the state pays for all this (!), should the state be represented by an attorney or any institution with respectively the rights of a procurator? Ensuring not only the presence of the state but also serving the justice and connecting the different cases in interaction, spotting out all the hidden arguments that law professions with "blinkers" can not spot out and feeling up the law knowledge gab due to the essential disadvantage of law professions during the court hearing.

Principle of Neutrality

In a place of illusional freedom, as is Germany, law professions which supposed to have the freedom of movement, to pursue their mission, arrive, as well, to get limited by applying the principle of neutrality.
The Civil or the panel law on their own couldn’t stand without procedure rules or procedure codes. In a few law systems, family law is part of Civil law. Modern lawyers tend to follow a particular direction and get extra specialized on that. They get the title like "family lawyer", or "property lawyer" and so go on. In that way, the neutrality of the law, in such a law system, is applied inherently, without specific rules! A lawyer who decides to follow a particular law direction is looking after no interactions with other law directions may occur during his/her law carrier!
In Germany and many modern law systems, I guess, a request for child custody, according to the family law, from a person who did show criminal activity should not be an issue in the custody request!
A mother who uses to keep asking the custody, for her children who got abused by her, even if she committed crimes which include underaged people, does still have the right to an impartial child custody hearing.

The right to start any legal case, submitting any legal remedy must be assured for anyone. This has been one of the law's main principles for a very long time. Securing the start for any legal case shows some difficulties when there are interactions with other open cases. A judge of the Family Court could not secure a free judgment, about a child custody request, if getting permanently interrupted from a criminal case petition during the hearing. The core is to let the Judge work exclusively on his case. Does that, really mean, that an abusive parent should get an impartial hearing about his custody request, requiring no petition of his criminal behaviors?

The Integration

People use to create a view about how the world is or must be like. They are happy or unhappy with the way they think the world is. People get taught from the school, the family, from their social environment the way they have to think. They keep strong inside anything they learned and use to see anything everywhere through a filter and a silent judgment that refers to the way they think.
In Germany, it is normal for everyone to be part of the rules protection which refers to society's stability. Everyone may do a denunciation against somebody who shows disrespect to the rules or violates the law to feel, in that way, part of the society, part of the rules, or part of the system.
Germany should be a paradise for emigrating from pure countries. The rules in Germany are strict but simple, follow the rules, sacrifice what is required to sacrifice, and you will never feel pure anymore!
Not pure in Germany means people who afford to pay the high rent, afford to visit a restaurant, at last, once a week, working about 40 hours or less per week, having no ambitions beyond their working position, respecting the Firm, they are working for, and raising children that matching the system.
Up to this point, there is no critic about how the system works, finally, the target is to keep the people happy, avoid conflicts, have no high ambitions. This is possible by teaching the people a specific way of living, creating in that way an illusion of freedom and happiness. Communist regimes create the illusion of equality while the modern western world creates the illusion of freedom.

In Germany, it’s very possible to get a parking fine because a casual citizen saw and snaped your wrong parking position. And this particular feeling of being part of societies well working is so deep arriving at the opposite side, of rules respecting. A person once in Germany, did stop his car just for a few minutes in a place were supposed not to do so, but he did this to let a pregnant woman get off and bring her to the Doctor’s office. The whole process lust about 5 minutes. He got two pictures, snaped from casual, going by, citizens, sent to the authorities denouncing the wrong parking spot. Did those people see there was a pregnant woman who helped? They did not, they sow only the opportunity to show to the system they are part of!

Customary law in Albania

From the very beginning I was often hear about “zhakonet” or “tradita” which refers to tradition. It is strange that for such an important, for the local people, meaning there are only two words, missing a lot of the classifications of this meaning.

It’s used for daily acts, or weekly or monthly, used for what people do in particular situations, how they fest, how they live, how start or how end something, even in the term related to customary law, is included the word “Zhakone”, which in fact has the same meaning like “tradita” but has a more officialy character, but is much used in the daily language (Zhakone, Zhakona) from people when they refer to something traditional or something they use to do in particular situations.

Traditions never fascinated me, in any place, and how more, people referring to tradition to justify their way they act, so more I dislike traditions.

It is a fact that traditions in Albania did play a specific and important role as soon, tradition is the one who during the history of Albania kept the population unique making in fact tradition the strongest law in the place!

Every person in the place, even the most independent or successful persons, are following a tradition, and feel as judge the peoples’ opinion. Finding out, how deep tradition root in some people, made me feel a deep disappointment, believing in some people’s independence from the traditional rules!

Earning money

Jobbing around the world did crash on my working dream. A writer is destinated to be alone, that is where he/she get his/her inspiration from. Earning money as an individual is something else, being alone in the money earning scheme does nothing romantic as a life of a writer does! How did my jobbing process work around the world? I strongly dislike being an employee, I avoided wherever I could to, but I also target to when there was not any other option.

I search for a job, even in Albania, even if never really happened, as well in Hong Kong I applied to a school as a Greek teacher. In Greece on the first months of 2008 and definitely in Germany. But finally, I did freelancing job in Albania, Greece, Hong Kong, Germany and search to do something that could ensure my living in Taiwan. I was thinking about, but not really searching about in Scotland and in a few more places.

My problem really was, my weakness to form a group, even if I dreamed to. Creating the right team, is the core of each modern time business, failing to do so, destinating in a failure in the first place.

I got some collaborations but never the team I wanted; this is my biggest weakness. Usually, people meet other people and decide to develop a business together, in my case I was looking for people, the business was projected already!

In Albania, my first collaboration was with an Albanian Notary, where I worked as an independent Translator. But nothing further could happen at all. The notary was happy with his nasty life, wouldn’t change anything as long he was earning money by selling his product in the same way a farmer sells his apples!

There were a few thoughts a couple of years before that, in a small village in the north of Greece, near to the Greek-Bulgarian border. I had there the team but could not make it work for mutual interest.

My second collaboration in Albania, looked more ambitions but was a frog finally! And the law office where a disaster. The group was far away from what I dreamed as my future life. Maybe part of my future decision to leave Albania! But I can’t admit, how much did help me that collaboration and old friendship to learn the law and its main principles, that are unique everywhere and in any law system around the globe.

With the independency dreams I moved to Greece following the solo law carrier, it was clear from the beginning how necessary where some good collaborations to get the big cases! Some tries to make a team did not work pushing me far away from Greece.

In Hong Kong, I learn the stock market. Being active in stock market as an investitοr was one of my very early dreams. In Hong Kong where necessary to find out in a short time a money source to feed my self and ensure my living in the place! The unsuccessful first moves through a Malaysian Bank, the only I arrived to open an account! The days and the weeks in an intensive investing and learning process made stock market one of the ways to earn some money but with so much stress. The years next and up to today, stock market investments got part of my income with periods of speculative moves to keep my self over the water. The seminars I followed in the next few years in Hong Kong, later Greece and finally in Frankfurt formed my investment strategy!